It's really hard
The other day I got a call from our LW (licensing worker). I was thinking, “Is she calling about another kiddo?” Well she wasn’t. She was calling to ask us if we would do a respite placement of a seven year old boy for ten days. My first thought was sure, we could do it. Its only for ten days. She said that he could sleep out on the couch since we had Princess and it was only for ten days. The first question I asked was if he had special needs. Nope. Then I said I had to call my hubby and ask. I have a severe problem with saying no to people. Especially when it comes to kids. But as soon as I got off the phone with my LW I knew that we couldnt do respite for him. First, I have been sick lately and not 100% up to par. Second, we didn’t know how PRicnes would be with a seven year old boy. Third I have several appts that I could not cancel. My husband agreed as well about having to say no. Boy did I hate to have to call and say no. I called our LW and gave her the news. Immediately afterwards I was second guessing myself and wanted to call her back. Oh, and my sister-in-law just had a baby and so it really was not a great time to have another kiddo in our Tiny house. I do hope they found him a good home, especially since he will be spending the holiday with them.
I also hesitated because I want the LW and CW’s to know that we will help them in anyway possible. I want them to think of us as a family that they can depend on. But deep down I know I did the right thing. I also know that they will call again. So hopefully next time we can say yes. I have learned really quick that in the foster care world you need to learn how to say NO and stick up for yourself and your sanity. Otherwise, people can take advantage of you. But I also feel kind of guilty because I know that if they had called about Sweetie I would have said yes in a heartbeat. Course we know her, she is a girl, and only three. Well, I just thought I would share. Until next time…..