Journey through Foster care and adoption

Journey to completing our family

Update January 24, 2016

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DSC_7382     I cannot believe that it has been almost two years since I have updated this blog. It seems like a life time ago. So much has happened. Where do I start. Well Let me start where I left off. We were placed with Little Bit on December 20,2013. But a few weeks before we got a call that would change our lives forever. I don’t know if you remember but we decided to pursue a domestic infant adoption through our agency. We could foster and go through the domestic program at the same time. We decided to go for it because we did not know if Rick or Sheldon would be staying forever. Also, at the time we started Cutie was not with us. So for a private domestic adoption the birth mother and father choose who they want to adopt their baby. They are making a decision to place their baby with you, unlike most foster care situations. There are so many couples that wait years to be picked by a birth mother. I thought we would be one of those couples. I thought that Rick and Sheldon would probably be reunited before we got the call that a birth mother had chosen us. Boy was I wrong.

About a week after Little Bit was born Princess and I were running errands and I got a phone call from our agency. Katie, our adoption worker called and asked me if we had our profile book ready. A profile book is basically a photo book that shows birthmothers pictures and information about a prospective adopted couple. Most of the time under the pictures there are little bits of info about the couple. We had our birthmother letter but did not have a profile book ready. We had been on the waiting list for only six months. I thought I had time:) Plus I was procrastinating because I wanted it to be perfect. I told her no and then she said that we could email her a few pictures because she was meeting with a expectant mom in about two hours. So we raced home and I sent her several pictures asap. In the back of my mind I was thinking that the expectant mom would not pick us because we didn’t have a nice shiny book to show her. There was another couple that she was also being considered. So I thought that would be a great present for that couple. My mind was on Little Bit coming home any day and all that I had to get done. So Katie, our adoption worker told us she would call us back. I went about my day.

About three hours later Katie called us back(hubby was working from home). She gave us the wonderful news that the expectant mom had chosen us and that we would be meeting her in a week. She was having a little boy sometime in February!!!!

My first thoughts and feeling were panic, sheer panic. That meant we would go from having four kiddos to six in the span of two months. Two newborns. I felt nauseous. Could we do this? Did we want to? What if she changed her mind? All these questions ran through our minds. After the initial shock wore off we new that we had a lot accomplish before our “twins” came. I will write more about what happened after we got the call later. Until next time…..

Oh I forgot to add that this precious little baby in the picture is our six little blessing:) I will tell you more about him later.

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So much to tell January 31, 2014

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So much has happened these last few months that it would be hard to tell it all in one post, but I am going to try and tell the main points. So here goes nothing. Several months ago we found out that Rick and Sheldon’s bio mom was pregnant to our major surprise. Initially we were told that the baby would be born at the end of January or early February. Also, it was not a guarantee that she would come into care. First things first Hubby and I had to discuss if when the time comes we decide on if we were going to take the baby. That would be five kiddos, a 9yr old, 4yr old, 3 yr old, 14 month old and then a newborn. I mean talk about chaos. But we knew right away that we would take the baby if the baby would come into care. We didn’t want the siblings split up and if there was ever a chance that the boys would be with us permanently we would want their sibling too. So we told the caseworker that we would accept placement if the baby were to come into care. Fast forward to November 27th, the day before Thanksgiving. The boys were going to have a visit and they were all ready to go when their case aid called and said that there would be not visit that day because bio mom had just had a baby girl!!!! I was shocked that she had the baby so early, which come to find out was not early at all but a full term baby girl. Long story short she was coming into care and she spent the first three weeks of her life in the NICU. On December 20th 2013 I went to pick up Little bit at the hospital. For the purpose of this blog her name with be called Little Bit or LB for short. She is a tiny little thing. So our family grew two more feet that day. She is the best baby ever, she sleeps well and doesn’t fuss that much. One thing that concerns me is she isn’t eating as much as she should and so they upped her calorie intake in her formula. So now we have LB and she is just a doll. But that doesn’t end our update what’s been happening. I will leave it at that for today but tomorrow I will tell you the rest of our story. Until next time……

 

Cutie’s Update December 4, 2013

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So I don’t have any good non identifying pictures of Cutie yet, so I will just have to take some for you for future posts. Cutie came to us in February of Last year. So she has been with us for about nine and a half months. She is now 13 months old. She has grown leaps and bounds since she came. She used to have really bad acid reflux and she has now grown out of it. She did not qualify Early Intervention and is developmentally on target. She has not started walking yet, but crawls like a maniac and I think she will crawl when she is ready. At first I was concerned about that but from what I have read every child is different and not to be concerned about it now.

As you may recall when we first got the call for Cutie I was very anxious that we could not handle four little ones and I was seriously considering turning down the placement. Well I am so glad my hubby talked me into it. I would have made the worst mistake of my life if I would have said no. She is amazing and we all love her soooo much!!!!!!!! At this time we are not for sure how long she will stay but we will cherish every moment with have with her and our boys. Until she was eleven months old she would wake up at least once during the night and now she sleeps all night long. As she continues to try new grown up food I have learned that she does not like meat as much as other foods. She does love Salisbury steak though:) As 

As far a teething go, six of her teeth came in one right after the other and we haven’t had major teething problems so far. She says mama and bye bye right now. All the kids love to play with her and give her kisses and hugs. I was afraid that Rick would be very jealous of her, but except for a few incidents he has been wonderful and is very gentle with her. Its hard to believe that three years ago we were wondering if we would ever have children and now we have four beautiful children. Our God is amazing!!! Well that’s it for now. Until next time……. 

 

Rick’s update November 21, 2013

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DSC_7412 What, oh what can I say about Rick. He came to us at 20 months old, just started walking and not speaking a word. Oh, how I miss those silent days:) No just kidding. He talks non-stop now. He graduated from speech therapy, and developmental therapy. In the beginning of October he started pre-school. Boy was that hard for me. I was dead set about him not going, unfortunately all foster children in the state of Illinois have to be in a pre-school program when they turn three. Well, not unfortunately, but I just wanted to keep him home for another year. Because of the way his birthday falls he will be in pre-school for three years, so why not let him stay home another year? Also, I want him to get all the help he can get while he is with us. How is he doing in pre-school you might ask? Well, overall he is doing good. He is as smart as a whip, but can be defiant at times. He likes to get into EVERYTHING still and tests his boundaries every two seconds. But that is normal for a just turned three year old. They say the terrible two’s aren’t as bad as the horrid three’s and I have first hand experience. This kid keeps me on  my toes. He is potty trained other than an occasional accident in the middle of the night. He also is amazing with Cutie. He is very gentle and loving towards her. He is growing like a weed, and sleeps fairly well. Knock on wood he still takes daily naps. Once in a blue moon he doesn’t take a nap, and those days are Looooong days. He is all boy and then some. We are not suppose to show faces of foster children online so I have this picture of Rick from last years snow. Well that’s about it. Until next time…….

 

Sheldon Update November 20, 2013

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So Sheldon and Rick have been with us for 18 months. Its hard to believe that Sheldon was just a little over three when he came to us. He has grown so much. When we first got Sheldon he was not very affectionate. I do not think that he was shown affection very much before coming to us. When I would give him hugs and kisses he would should stand still like a board with his hands to his sides. Now he runs to me all the time for hugs and kisses and says he loves us. He is going on his second year in preschool and doing quite well. Next year he will be in kindergarten, its hard to believe. He is very polite and we are teaching him to open doors for others, which he loves to do. He loves to go to AWANA’s and children’s choir.

Sheldon has a very tender heart and I really do hope he keeps that no matter what happens in the future. As for reunification time with his family, that is probably going to be another year or so. We have fallen head over heals in love with them and are truly blessed to have them in our lives. Sheldon right now is in that super hero stage where he loves to dress up as the Hulk, spiderman, batman, etc. He is a truly precious boy and we are so glad he is in our lives. Until next time…..

 

Princess update

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So Princess has been with us for two and a half years now. Time flies by so quickly. She is growing up so fast I can’t believe it. I look back on pictures when we first got her and am amazed at how much she has grown. She just turned nine in September. She finished second grade and did very well academically but socially she struggled. Emotionally she is more on a five year old level but academically right on target. I think that she just does not know how to relate to her peers. She was going to a social group class to learn more skills but I do not think it helped. We decided to find a attachment therapist in the area and started seeing her this spring. The therapist recommended that we first make sure she has a solid bond with us before we worked on social skills. Even though she has been with us for two years she still has a long ways to go with attachment. She needs to grow and mature over time. So we decided to home school her this year so she can bond more with us and also it takes the pressure off of her. She was always coming home saying how she did not have friends and would often get into arguments with her classmates. Since we started school in the beginning of September she has done quite well. We still struggle with her getting frustrated easily over her school work but it can easily be redirected. She enjoys school and still has social involvement with kids at church and family.

Princess adores Cutie and loves having a little sister. She has quarrels with Sheldon and Rick often but that is sibling rivalry I will just have to get used to. I want her to stay little forever. She is grown way to fast for my liking. But thank the Lord she still believes in Santa. I figure next year we will have to have the talk about Santa. We moved around rooms this summer and She has a smaller room but we fixed it up all girly. She has pink walls, butterfly décor and new bedding, bed and dresser. I will post pictures later. She really loves the room. This past summer she did start picking more and it was frustrating to see, but within the past few weeks she has been doing so much better. She has been asking me for a sibling closer to her age but we tell her that that will not happen:) This past summer she went to a horse riding camp and loved it. She did so well and I am hoping to have her do it again next summer. As a kid we had horses for a short time and remember all the fun we had. Well that’s the update for Princess. We are so blessed to have her in our lives. Until next time….

 

Long time….. November 13, 2013

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So I am not good at keeping an up to date blog, and in the blogging world that can be quite annoying. So sorry to all that read my blog. So much has happened in the last eight months. We still have Princess, Rick, Sheldon and Cutie. We are still pursuing domestic adoption. In June we went to a two day adoption training through our agency and met some really nice couples that also would be adopting. I really didn’t learn anything that I didn’t already know. I am an avid researcher so I learn a lot from that. We were put in the books so to speak after the class was over. Being “in the books” means that our agency will show our birth mother letter and picture to ladies that are considering an adoption plan. All four kiddos are doing well and we have settled in with everyone. Rick is giving me a run for my money with the terrible three’s. Cutie has grown by leaps and bounds, Sheldon is becoming more and more of a little gentleman, and Princess amazes me every day with how far she has come since we brought her home. I will update on each of the kids individually soon. Until next time…..

 

 
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